Monday, September 19, 2005
double standards, mood analysis test
just read yingwen's blog about the double-standards thingy.. didnt know what it meant at first.. but after reading the link she provided.. somehow got an idea of what it meant.. it actually means something like treating everyone differently.. ur betta friends u treat betta.. your not so good friends, or one might say aqquaintance, not so good.. doesnt apply only to friends, sibling and family and everything that's a noun.. even subjects..
sad to say.. i practise such things.. sometimes it isnt like u purposely practise it.. but its just so natural that even though u know you're not being nice.. you cant really be bothered.. this is my thinking.. not everyone is like what i think.. and anyone reading is not compelled to take on the same side..
since young.. when we used to write in autograph books for people.. and there'll be this column "friends".. in this column we rate our friends under specific catagories.. an example of the 'hot' catagories is under 'gold' , 'silver' , 'bronze'.. its always nice to see ur name under the best catagory.. i always felt a thrilled when i see my name in the best catagory.. then once i gave a friend of mine to write my autogrpah book.. silently hoping she would write my name under then best column.. i treated her very well.. when i received the book from her.. i immediately flipped the pages franticlly.. when i read tru the list.. i found my name under the catagory 'bad'.. she didnt write my name.. she just wrote 'u'.. it was during P5.. i asked her if she could be my best friend.. come to think of it.. quite stupid right.? who would ask someone if they could be their best friend.. we were having maths enrichment that time.. then she said 'if u can solve this qns then i will be ur best friend'.. i said 'ok.. i brg home and try.. tml brg back' ( silently thinking i would ask my aunt when she comes home ) anyway.. she read my thoughts.. she said ' no.. u must solve now or else its not counted.' i tried until the lesson ended.. unfortunately i didnt manage to solve the qns.. i return the qnestion to her.. she said.. 'then you cannot be my best friend lo.' this happened before i asked her to write my autograph book.. it was after the autograph book incident that i finally realised something.. how much u put in will not always have equal returns.. in chinese.. ni fu chu duo shao bu dai biao ni hui de dao yi yang de hui bao.. then again.. to some.. what u put in is on your own accord.. you do no wish for any returns.. this is very nobel.. but few can boast they ARE that nobel.. we always treat someone nice hoping that person would treat us ncie as well.. this double-standard thing is human nature.. there will always be a clique you R hanging out with.. but within the clique.. or so called clique.. there are also grp of best friends and stuff.. there'll never be one day where everyone is at the same level.. thats for me.. for eg. A, B and C are good friends.. A and angry with B and she confides in C.. during this time.. A and C will be very close.. but after a while.. when everythings back to normal.. C may be angry with A.. and C confides in B.. then C and B becomes very close.. this is the cycle that this world lives in.. the above A, B and C are real life examples.. but when friends R that good.. no amount of quarrels will drive a bridge between them.. i've come to realise that when there are unhappiness.. its always good to talk things tru.. and everything will be fine.. everyday will be smooth.. this is an open secret.. but how many are willing to do so.? there are so many other factors that affects one decision to take the initiative or not.. 1. scared no face 2. not my fault what.! why should i talk first.. these are the two main ones.. i've been tru many cold wars.. one even lasting 2 months.. when we make up.. i said 'we'll never be as good as b4 le' but i feel that the person whom i've had most cold wars with and said this sentence to.. we're still as good as b4.. maybe those still are unable to get it over will bear a grudge.. and thats the end of a good friendship.. but dont u think thats such a waste.? how long will you live.? how many true friends can u find in ur lifetime.? when will u find them.? how many years of happy times are you going to spend with them.? its not easy to find one.. so treasure them.! many atimes miscommunication and refusal to talk things out are the cause of broken friendships.. in ur life.. you will meet with alot of temptations.. esp when new friends come along and they're so fun to be with.. they breathe fresh life into the stale boring clique that you've always been with.. life is boring.. everyday is the same old thing.. but those that've always been by your side tru the years.. they'll be there for you the rest of ur life when ur 'new friends' fade away.. afterall.. when we finally settle down and get married.. we always look for a partner who's rock stable isnt it.? and those that u once tot were stale and boring.. they're now ur new rock.. ur stable foundation that'll always be there when u're about to collasp.. trust me.. wo shi guo lai ren..
anyway.. there is no need to feel bad about practising double-standards.. its not as if u dont recieve such treatments.. i believe everyone have received such treatments.. not that i am say ''he do that to me, i also do that to him la.! what's wrong." but its just the way life is.. wouldnt life be boring if everyone was treated equally.? think bout it.!
mood analysis test: quite true for some parts.!
Utmost in your mind is success. You are constantly seeking stimulation and a life full of experience. You are trying to 'grow' and above all you need to develop freely and to shake off the shackles of self-doubt. You are an enthusiastic individual, full of life with the desire to live intensely. You like contact with others and are enthusiastic by nature. You are receptive to anything new, modern or intriguing. Your interests are many and you are likely to expand your fields of activities. You are optimistic about the future and you deserve every success because deep down you are a 'winner'. You are a very warm and emotional individual but unfortunately in the past too many people have taken advantage of this sensitive trait. You need aesthetic surroundings, or an equally sensitive and understanding partner with whom to share a warm understanding. There are times of everyone's life when 'compromise' is the name of the game and this is the time, so you have no alternative but to forgo some pleasures for the time being. You are capable of achieving satisfaction through physical activity. Your willpower and stamina are in danger of being overwhelmed by excessive stress. Your resilience and tenacity have become weakened. You are feeling overtaxed, worn out and getting nowhere: but you continue to stand your ground. You feel that this unfavourable situation is an encumbrance which you could well do without and you find yourself unable to make the necessary decisions at this particular moment in time to change anything. The tensions that you are trying to cope with are a result of conditions which are really beyond your control. As a consequence of this almost impossible situation and not being able to get your own way, you are subjected to frustration and almost ungovernable anger. You are trying to remedy the situation but the stress that you are experiencing is making the situation even worse. You feel so inadequate that you are not quite sure which way to turn. A good suggestion would to be to try to relieve the stress and anxiety by participating in some very active physical activity which will relieve your tension.
9:10 PM
I <3 MYSELF
kimberly
25.10.89
volleyball
beach
sea
waves
sand
sun
trees
mojito
sex on the beach
movies
kbox
ang mohs =D